Ten top tips for getting your child ready for return to school

Ahead of the start of the new school year, CATHERINE LYNCH, from education and lesson-planning experts PlanBee, has 10 tips for getting young ones ready and eager to learn

There are some simple tips for getting youngsters relaxed and ready for school

As families struggle to deal with the fall-out from exams chaos, don’t forget that younger children also need support with their mental health – this year of all years.

Although they’re still on holiday, they may have worries about the new school year in September.

While this is usually an exciting – if slightly scary – time for young children, this year will be like no other. Schools have made enormous efforts to give children – especially those who are moving on to “big” school – a sense of celebration and achievement, there is no doubt that the lengthy absence from school has made everything different.

Children may be out of the habit of formal learning, they probably haven’t had one-to-one contact with teachers, they may have lost contact with many of their friends. And if that wasn’t enough, we know the new school year will mean social-distancing, ‘bubbles’. and a host of changes to their learning environment.

This is the time to work on developing good mental health practices at home to help you children feel calm and prepared for what lies ahead. Here are 10 easy ways to do it.

Relationships are important

Create a nurturing environment where everyone feels valued and safe.

While the need may be innate, the skill of developing and maintaining connections is learned. You can create this environment at home by working as a team, sharing responsibilities and making sure everyone’s efforts are appreciated. Think about ways your family is looking out for each other and remember showing appreciation and keeping the lines of dialogue open consistently will help your children learn these skills.

Adjust your expectations

We are in a very strange time. Our worlds have been turned upside down. Adults and children alike have been affected by changes to their lives and as a result, things we used to be able to cope with might feel like huge mountains to climb. We all have something called a window of tolerance. If your window is smaller than usual at the moment, go easy on yourself and take the pressure off. Allow yourself and your children to be less productive than normal, and give yourselves time to process what you are feeling.

Allow everyone to have a voice

Returning to school next month is not going to be straightforward for many children. But there are ways to help

It is normal to want to feel in control and to hold on tightly to the things we can control. Whether your child breaks down over the wrong-colour socks or something else, see what practical choices you can give them to help them feel they have some control.

Depending on their age, give them a few carefully selected choices to choose from or have an open discussion about the options available. If transitions are hard for your child, focus on what is happening when the current activity ends, give them time warnings, or a timer if they are old enough.

Be playful and have fun

Play fosters creativity, collaboration and problem-solving, all of which are important for good mental health. Playing is a fantastic way to develop relationships and resilience. It also releases feel-good hormones. Children (and adults) learn through play. Children often explore areas they are finding challenging through their play. Role-plays are a great example of this.

Create an atmosphere where all feelings are allowed

Name feelings and emotions as they arise. This gives children and adults the language to describe how they are feeling. Set aside a calm time to talk about feelings. You could show your children Emoticon Emotions Cards or Photo Emotions Cards and ask them to pick one to explore. Talk about the physical sensations the emotion has for each of you. Talk about times you felt it or characters in books, films or TV shows experienced it. Discuss what happened before, during and after the emotion was felt. Is there a better way the character could have reacted? What led up to the crisis point?

Help children to give their feelings an appropriate outlet. Put boundaries in place around behaviours to keep everyone safe and develop strategies to help reinforce those boundaries. For example, you are allowed to feel happy, angry or sad, you are not allowed to break things or hit.

Read stories

Spend time together and lose yourselves in a good book. Act out stories and make up your own narratives. Use your imagination or add props. Let books take you where you cannot physically go.

Keep some structure in the day

This does not mean you need to timetable every second. For example, agree times that you will come together as a family. Agree a time that is for quiet activities, work, going outdoors. If your family is anything like mine, you may find the daily structure seems to centre around food!

Encourage curiosity

Shared activities, however simple, can help provide structure to a child’s day

Take your children outside and follow their lead, see what they have questions about and research the answers together. Go on ‘I spy challenge walks’, find out how exercise changes their heart rate, have timed races, explore shadows, find mini-beasts, classify animals, identify plants and identify birds. The list is endless. These do not have to be structured planned activities, go outside and develop observational skills and see where the time takes you.

Give your child a safe space they can go to

See if you can create a den or something similar for your child to play in, and retreat to when they want to be alone.

Make time for family time

Designate time each week where there are no screens and no distractions. Use this time to work on something together. This might be building a den, cooking, painting, crafting, going on a walk. It doesn’t matter what the activity is; the important thing is to spend some quality stress-free time connected, doing something together. Success has different guises: have a day where you forget about the end goal and the focus is on being together.

Catherine Lynch of PlanBee is a former primary school teacher. She tweets at @planbeecath

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1 Response to Ten top tips for getting your child ready for return to school

  1. Moya Gordon says:

    Nice advice. Thanks

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